Tag : buying-a-home
Tag : buying-a-home
5 ways to get your relationship through your real estate transaction.
I am certainly not a therapist and don’t pretend to be one. In fact, I don’t want to know about your skeletons or deep dark secrets so keep that stuff to yourself, this is merely my observations in 15 years of practicing real estate. I have noticed a common trend amongst generally loving couples, at some point during the home buying and selling process, the snapping, eye rolling and loud sighs begin. A snide comment here, a sarcastic one there and all the sudden your real estate agent won’t make eye contact with either of you for fear you will think they are choosing sides. Relax, I am not singling you out, it happens to the best of us. Here are a few things I’ve found were helpful to remind my clients. If you are one of those perfect couples who never argues and always see eye to eye with your partner, congratulations, but I don’t believe you.
1. YOU DON’T ACTUALLY HATE YOUR PARTNER: You don’t. No, seriously, you don’t. One thing that always makes me laugh is when your partner doesn’t like the tile in your dream home and suddenly they can’t do any thing right. Chill out. You aren’t going to agree on everything and big life events are hard. When it comes to selling, I see a lot of stress on couples. I usually recommend sitting down together ahead of time and discussing your expectations before you list your house. One place you need to agree is price, I have often seen couples take opposing sides on price when an offer comes in. One thinks it’s too low, the other is ready to get the dang house sold. Sitting down ahead of time and agreeing on your strategy will make life easier on both of you.
2. SLEEP ON IT: How many times have you gotten this advice? Taking a little time is always a good idea. Your Husband loves the house you like the least? Don’t freak out in the driveway, in fact try to keep an open mind. Give it at least one night’s sleep before you absolutely put your foot down.
3. SEE IT THROUGH YOUR PARTNER’S EYES: Instead of saying no, because it just doesn’t suit you, try taking a few minutes to appreciate what your partner loves about a particular house. If you’re selling and your wife is having a mini breakdown because keeping the house clean for showings while trying to wrangle your twin toddlers is killing her, give her a minute to vent. I suggest never getting too close to an over stressed mother. Then try to come up with some options to make that an easier event. Giving the kids away is not an option, usually. When all else fails, even if you think she’s over reacting and being far too dramatic, a glass of wine and a little chocolate has saved many a night.
4. YOU CAN’T ALWAYS GET WHAT YOU WANT: But as the Rolling Stones said, “if you try sometimes you just might find, you get what you need”. As in most life changing events you aren’t going to always agree on the details. The name of the game is compromise. It’s rare to find a house that has every single perfect element a couple ever wanted, so there is going to be some give and take. When it comes to your house search, I recommend coming up with a “Top 10” list as a couple, and then establish a few deal breakers on that list. Share this list with your agent so they are sure to keep things headed the right direction.
5. ZIP YOUR LIPS: This one is hard (read: nearly impossible) for me, as I speak fluent sarcasm. Here’s the deal, while looking at homes together, if you don’t have anything nice to say to your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend whatever, don’t say anything at all. That means no sarcastic comments about the yoga room your wife fell in love with, no eye rolling and deep sighs while your husband drools over the built in workshop with air conditioning and an extra 220 volt outlet. Give them their moment, it doesn’t mean you are suddenly throwing down an earnest deposit and riding off into the sunset to Home Depot. I often find that just because one person loves loves one item about the house, does not mean they are desperate to have the whole thing. Being disrespectful to each other will make for one heck of a long day, and an even longer real estate search. Now here is the caveat, if you both hate the green shag carpet and pink toilet, go to town, say whatever comes to mind, my client’s will tell you that I definitely will!
And now for the good news, once paperwork is signed and the stress of packing up and unpacking all of your earthly possessions subsides, you’ll like each other as much or as little as you did before.
If you’re looking to buy or sell your AZ home, and would like more information, please find me at my website or email me at Caily@CailySellsAZ.com
Just want to share your real estate couple breakdown, I’m all ears, feel free to comment!
Categories: Real Estate
Obviously you are smarter than your Realtor! Isn’t everyone? I mean this simply must be the case, otherwise, why would you be ignoring the advice of the trained professional that you hired? Hmmm, but wait, doesn’t your agent do this like day in and day out? It’s almost like they buy and sell houses for a living.
Do you detect any sarcasm? If the answer is no, go ahead and close this blog out now. Save yourself.
Folks, seriously, stop ignoring the advice of your Realtor. When they tell you the price you want for your house is too high, it is. The single biggest factor in a home spending more days on market than necessary is price. Think your agent wants to price the house too low to get it sold? Think again. The more your home sells for, the more money your agent makes, it’s a little thing we like to call commission based sales. Next, I am telling you, your agent wants to get more business in the neighborhood. You know what really irks the neighbors? Undercutting the value of their home by selling the neighbor’s house for next to nothing. Hire a good agent and they are going to work to get you as much for your home as they can, but they can’t magically wish the value of your home higher, so help them, help you.
A great agent (me, me) will walk you through your home and make suggestions for reasonable repairs and updates. There’s a chance they know what they are talking about. Just a chance. Maybe consider NOT blowing off their suggestions. I know you love your house and think everyone else will too. They won’t. Listen to your agent.
When your agent brings you feedback from other agents who have shown your home, put your giant house ego away and listen! Showing feedback is like gold! This is the feedback from potential buyers who have been through your home. It’s good stuff and can be a very useful tool if you can handle the truth. If the feedback is consistently that your collection of fuzzy bunnies with googly eyes is creepy and makes people want to run screaming, go ahead and store them for later. If you hear that your life size bozo the clown statue is too distracting for buyers, go ahead and send bozo on a holiday. You can bring him back in your new home. (Or never again). Don’t ignore the agent feedback, they are simply the messenger, and the message is worth your time.
I get it, you can beat your real estate agent in chess, you school them at monopoly and you could open a can of Trivial Pursuit whoop ass at any moment, but I am willing to bet your agent has bought and sold many more houses than you have. I will also bet that in a given week, they have been in and out of more strange houses than you have all year, So consider this, they might, just might have the experience here to get the job done. If you hire them, trust them, you’ll save yourself some aggravation in the long run.
For more unsolicited opinions and general bossing around, feel free to visit my website, or contact me at Caily@CailySellsAZ.com. Looking for a GREAT realtor in the Phoenix, Scottsdale, Paradise Valley area, check me out, I consider myself pretty great. (Someone has to)
Some funny for your Friday!
North Scottsdale is hoppin’! We are finally cool enough for a Dutch Bros coffee shop! Can I get a collective Hallelujah!? The hippest, dare I say friendliest coffee spot around, will make the Grayhawak Plaza their home. Located on N. Scottsdale Road between E. Grayhawk Dr, and Thompson Peak Parkway, this plaza already boasts a Cold Beer and Cheeseburgers, Which-Which, Chipotle, and a Pei Wei. In short, it might become my new favorite place to be. This new location won’t be just any old Dutch Bros, oh no, we would never…. It’s a 1,838 sf location, and will include indoor seating as well as a drive thru. With the opening of a the New Sprouts and now some hip coffee coming our way, I’d say our community is doing pretty darn well! The news makes this Scottsdale Realtor pretty excited for the coming year. Hoping with all the action, we see a boost in home sales and property value. Coffee and Profit, It can’t get any better! If you have questions about what’s happening our way, contact me anytime!
Treating your home purchase like online dating? You could be wasting you time!
I know what you’re doing. I’ve seen it before. You’re sitting at work, you’ve got a few minutes, and you’re surfing the web to find “the one”. Be honest, we both know you’re looking at the pictures first, maybe you’ll skim the description and you’ll decide whether you want to explore this possibility within a minute or two. Maybe you have a friend who sends you options they like for you, and I know your realtor does. Your Realtor? Yea, your realtor, because we are talking about looking for houses here. Sound suspiciously like the way people cruise Match.com and other dating sites? It does to me.
Has anyone you know ever gone on a date with someone who’s profile they were positively a fan of, only to find out that the real thing wasn’t quite what they thought it was (In some cases not at all what they thought it was)? Well, I’ve got news for you. The same is true with houses.
As a Realtor, I often get the call from a client espousing their love for a home they found on the MLS through my website or other searches like Realtor.com and Trulia. They love it, it’s the one. We must see it today, and so we do. Bad news, when we get there, more often than not, we marvel at the magic of photo shop as opposed to the house itself. Online tools are great for checking houses out, but don’t declare love or hate based on that alone. Here are a couple of things to keep in mind when online stalking your house.
* The pictures can be manipulated. I so often hear, “wow the rooms looked so much bigger in the pictures”, and after I push all the inappropriate jokes that came to mind out, I use words like “Wide Angle lens” and “Photoshop”. There are plenty of ways to take a great picture, and if they do a good job you only see what they want you to see. I also often see outdated pictures. Like when the realtor uses pics from before the house became a crime scene. (A bit dramatic, but seriously, some houses make you wonder). Conversely, don’t chuck a house based on pics alone. It’s a shame, but some people don’t put enough emphasis on the pictures and end up using photos that just don’t do the house justice.
* Almost everything you need to know, can’t be found in a picture. There are a whole bunch of important factors that can not come from a picture. First, because it’s my favorite, Smell. A house that became a meeting place for the stray cats of the city or one that’s been smoked in like a chimney may look great but oh my, the smell. The home’s layout will matter to you, even a virtual tour can’t give you the real feel. How about neighbors and the neighborhood in general? Sure there is google earth, but that picture isn’t from today.
Check out this Handy Dandy Graphic, from Great Colorado Homes.com, use it as your guide. As always, a great realtor will advise you of these pitfalls. I like to preview homes for my clients when they think they are in love, I find it saves their time and their feelings.
Online presence is important and it’s not going away. It is key to make sure your home shows beautifully online, and I can show you how. If you are in Phoenix, Scottsdale, Paradise Valley and surrounding areas, give me a call when you are ready to hire an agent to help you navigate your home’s online presence and get you in to something you love! Visit me at my website anytime at www.CailySellsAZ.com!
Categories: Real Estate